Mindful Monday Week 15

What is missing from your life?

Hi, Thinking Out Loud here :D

Welcome to Mindful Monday Week 15

Here is the link for this week's playlist. https://open.spotify.com/playlist/7vEyE5XVCyjdjRSSLw5AWi?si=652213005345471b&pt=40db776b8e3204534e5b4e96aa145dbb

I hope you enjoy listening to it whilst you read, and I hope you find the music relaxing.

If an ad plays during listening to the playlist, please stop reading and wait for the playlist to play again. Hopefully, the playlist will be timed for you to read to the end of this blog post, with maybe one song running over after reading.

Get a drink, maybe even a snack, and find a comfy seat so you can relax. Let go of all worries and enjoy the next five deep breaths. If you have breathing problems, please take an extra mindful moment here. For those joining me in the breathing exercise, breathe out.

Now time for your first deep breath; take one deep breath in through your nose for five 1..2..3..4..5.. hold for 1..2.. breath out through your mouth for five 1..2..3..4..5.. Hold for 1.. Breath in for five 1..2..3..4..5.. hold for 1..2.. And out through for five 1..2..3..4..5.. hold for 1.. Breathe in for five 1..2..3..4..5.. hold for 1..2.. And out for five 1..2..3..4..5.. hold for 1.. two more to go; breath in for five 1..2..3..4..5.. hold for 1..2.. And out for five 1..2..3..4..5.. hold for 1.. last one deep breath in for five 1..2..3..4..5.. hold for 1..2.. And out for five 1..2..3..4..5.. hold for 1.. now go back to your regular breathing pattern. I hope you now feel calm and relaxed.

For today's Mindful Monday, I have a question for you.

What is missing from your life?

The answer for everyone will be different. Some might be positive answers, and some might not be; there is no correct or wrong answer to this question. How you answer is based on you and no one else. So I expect no two answers to be the same. That's why I like this question, along with it making us think about what we have and what we maybe don't have.

I haven’t asked this question to make anyone feel sad; so I am sorry in advance if this question has stirred up some sadness; that isn’t my intention.

Here are some ideas of what might be missing.

For some, the thing that is missing might be a job, relationship, money, family members, friends, a holiday, a car, a house of your own, something that you’ve seen in a shop that you can’t stop thinking about and wish you had bought it when you first saw it.

The list is endless, and the possibilities of things that are missing are plenty, but I want you to focus on one thing that is missing. Please try to make your thoughts as positive as possible; I want the missing thing to bring you happiness, joy, and so much love. Say it first to yourself, then say it out loud, and let it be heard.

For me, a big thing that is missing is more Patreons; I would love to grow my platform, to create more blogs like this along with different ones, to let more people see my writing, ultimately to reach more people, and to be at the stage where I can self publish. I hope to do that with the help of Patreon and my Patrons, which I hope is you who is reading this post.

I want to grow what I’m able to do, I want to expand, and I want to learn as I go. I also don’t want to do just one type of writing; I don’t want to be fitted into one typecast, genre or platform.

I see Patreon as a good thing that will continue to grow my skills I know will develop the more I do this. However, I’m not sure how to grow my Patreon other than what I already do, which is talking about it on my socials which seems to not be working.

If you have any suggestions or know how I can grow my Patreon, please let me know; any help is gratefully accepted. While I’m here for those reading this blog on Thinking Out Loud, here is the link for my Patreon page, patreon.com/freyaAhatfield I have different tiers; hopefully, there is a price range that suits everyone.

Now for you reading this blog post, let's see if we can help you get that thing that might be missing from your life. So please leave a comment below about what is missing from your life and hopefully as a community, I hope we can help you find that thing that is missing.

You might be someone who doesn't have anything missing, in which case that is amazing. I am happy that you have everything you need in life, and I can’t wait to be that settled in my career and personal life. I applaud you for getting to this stage of life; it truly is something most of us dream about being able to achieve.

Let's finish with a three-deep breath breather.

Take one deep breath in through your nose for five 1..2..3..4..5.. hold for 1..2.. breath out through your mouth for five 1..2..3..4..5.. hold for 1.. breath in for five 1..2..3..4..5.. hold for 1..2.. and out for five 1..2..3..4..5.. hold for 1.. final breath in for five 1..2..3..4..5.. hold for 1..2.. last breath out for five 1..2..3..4..5.. no hold here you can now go back to your regular breathing pattern.

As always, thank you for taking the time to read this week's Mindful Monday. I really do appreciate everyone who takes the time to read them and listens to what I have to say.

Love always

Thinking Out Loud xx :D

Whatever happens, is meant to be.

Mental Health Monday week 7

Hey Thinking out loud here xx :D

I hope you take this time for you before we get started let's take three deep breaths in and out the deepest breaths you will take today One breath in all the way to your lungs through your nose hold it for a second and now breath it out all the way through your mouth, two more in all the way in through your nose, hold it for a second and out all the way through your mouth, last one in all the way in though your nose hold it for two seconds a lot can happen in two seconds and out all the way out through your mouth. Now you can find your regular breathing pattern and carry on as usual from here on in. 

Let all worries that have happened are yet to happen or aren't even going to happen go. This is your time for you, to be present with your breath, mind and body, for you to relax, find what works for you and let someone else worry for a bit. We don't need that right now, it isn't welcome whilst reading this blog post, but you. So please sit back relax I hope you are comfy as of recent weeks-long posts seem to be what is happening at the moment so while they last I hope you enjoy, I hope you have your drink of choice drink responsibly, and your snack of choice snack responsibly for you. With that, let's get this blog post started before I make it any longer with this intro which funnily enough, was written after the blog post. So it very much is longer than I intended, welcome to the life of a writer who loves to write and doesn't know when to stop. Also just have to say the procrastination was strong with this one by gosh it took a while, but here we are at uploading. Right seriously now let's get into Mental Health Monday, week 7.

This week in Queensland it is mental health week, previously though on Saturday it was world mental health day. I hope everyone took the time over the weekend to look at how you are going, if there is anything you can change to help get you to a place where you feel better if you currently are going through a bit of a hard time. Whether it's taking a break from social media, talking to a loved one, if you can safely visit a loved one, taking a day or two off from work providing you have days that you can take. Taking a little extra time for your morning or night routine (this I have been doing and the benefits mentally that I have noticed are amazing, I realise this won't work for everyone.) going for a walk getting a bit of fresh air again f you can do so safely (this once again I have done twice this weekend and the shift I have felt physically and mentally have been nice welcome.)

I know it is never easy but now more than ever our self-care has never been more important, we are still going through unprecedented times, and it is entirely understandable if you are finding it hard to relax, take time for you and thoroughly look after yourself, when I say look after yourself I'm not talking about once in awhile taking time out for you, I'm talking like a full-on weekly part of your normal routine looking after you. I know I don't do it enough (I am learning) since taking extra time on a night to look after my body as I said up at the beginning, I have noticed such a difference in how I am feeling. This I understand might not be for everyone, but once you find your way of looking after yourself in terms of your body, as in lotioning, or something that's relaxing for you. You will see some changes, I'm not talking full-on radical everything will be better but its a step to making that happening its an effort to seeing what works what doesn't work and changing knowing that changing up every few months your routine and not staying the same, as we change so too should our practices I find we can get again used to day to day life that sometimes the thought of change can be scary.

Along with a daily routine getting some fresh air I have found is an excellent mood boost, a walk is such a great way of getting out, exploring your local area and something we are still mostly able to do at the present time. Something that I for the past few years have dabbled in and this year have really allowed me to get into is yoga, a lot of the positions are designed for relieving anxieties, helping mentally and physically, connecting you back with your breath and aligning anything physically, mentally and spiritually that may have come of keel. It strengths everything and balances everything, it's not just a one thing workout it really does put everything back to how it should be though this I have to say happens over time like anything it doesn't just happen overnight or after one session. Nothing regardless of what it's called is a miracle worker everything takes its time to work. Significantly and I can't stress this enough things that claim to give you that perfect body, or glow or claim that its a life changer, those rarely work and if they do it will take longer than it claims it does.

As much as mental health is to do with your mental stability, it goes more in-depth than that, it like I've mentioned again above covers your whole body. Helping your mental health helps your physical health and vis versa. Health, as I see it from an unprofessional point of view, isn't clear cut, it isn't a one-way street however often it might be seen as being like that or even feeling like it is. And everything works differently for each individual, what works for me might not work for you, but please take everything I say as being an option, and understanding that it might and might not work. Don't beat yourself up if it doesn't work, it's OK. 

During this week, take the time to find what helps, and even what doesn't help because then you can honestly know what is right for you and what you can stay away from. I also find it's best going into something expecting it to be hard or challenging so it's not a shock for if it is and its a pleasant surprise if it isn't. But really do try and find those things doesnt matter how many things but if you find at least three things that work for you and can fit into a weekly or even daily routine to help in a way that as well doesn't cost a lot of money, time or effort, but can enrich you for the better and make you feel like you've made an effort purely for you and no one else. That's also another thing everything you do should be for you and no one else, it's easier said than done I know but doing it for you will make the benefit, and that want to do it more meaningful and hopefully will add to that accomplishment of having done something for you and will help in the process of yourself care and in with that self-love and self-worth, again all factors of our mental health.

I hope wherever you happen to be and regardless of this being an MHM you may not be reading this on a Monday so in that case, I hope you have a lovely day and week ahead, I hope you get done what you want to get done, but don't stress if you don't, it will get done in time. I hope that you enjoyed this blog post, as always you can always find me along with my partner in crime over on our Instagram if you do ever need a chat @allthingspositive22 thank you again for taking the time out of your day to read this post, it really does mean a lot and I hope these MHM help in some little way. I will be back on here on Thursday but if not then next Monday will Mental Health Monday week 8 (shocked face, can't believe next week is week 8)

Before we go let's do a little calm down exercise as we did at the beginning of this posts lets do three final deep breaths. Breath all of the air out, now once your lungs are empty please only do this if you can, and you don't have any form of breathing problems, breath in deep taking it all the way through your nose hold it for a second, and out through your mouth all the way this time hold for a second, two more, breath in all the way through your nose, hold for a second and out all the way through your mouth, and hold for a second, last one in all the way through your nose hold for five seconds 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, and out all the way through your mouth and hold for another five-second 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, and now breath as you usually would if at all throughout the day you need to breath take three breaths allow yourself to calm and then carry on with whatever it is you were doing. Thank you again for reading this post.

Love always Thinking out loud xx :D