31/12/2016

Final post for 2016

Hi Thinking out loud here :D

It's been awhile, so I thought I'd do one last blog post before the year is out, I want to to re-cap on some things and look to next year.

In all honesty I don't really know where to begin, this year has been a trying and testing year, I feel more so than any other. Things have happened that shouldn't have, things happened that couldn't be helped. It came with highs and plenty of lows from the deaths of many celebrities both young and old, and plenty of natural disasters including with some here in New Zealand. It was a year that truly pushed many of us to places we never knew we could go. I think the best way is to start with the not so great events and end with the happier events of the year.

Some of the biggest surprises that sadly happened were the numerous deaths starting with (Star man) David Bowie, Alan Rickman (who will for ever be known as Snape to so many of us,) Sir Terry Wogan (who with out Children in need will not be the same in the UK,) Paul Daniels, Ronnie Corbett (one of the funniest comedians there ever could have been, the two ronnies can now be together again,) Victoria woods (another great comedian,) Prince, (for everyone who is on YouTube a talented singer who) Christina Grimmie, Carrie Fisher and her Mother Debbie Reynolds to name just a small portion of the many talented and loved people we lost in 2016. all of whom will be greatly missed, with the celebrities passing which felt like one a week at some stages in the year there has been plenty of things happening politically with the Bexit, the failed military coup in Turkey, the American election which I honestly think no one was ready for but is going to make 2017 interesting, our prime minister resigned and all the tempted bombs and the bombs that killed thousands of people including the Orlando shooting which started the love is love is love campaign which many musicals and people around the world got involved with showing the LGBT community that they weren't alone.

With the world already wanting 2016 to be over we had the zika virus and mother nature to contend with, we have had shakes some one after another starting here in New Zealand and continuing to Japan, central America and the most recent one in Chile, these of course came with their own problems tsunami warnings, places left stranded and sadly people dieing. All this has only shown that we as a whole are pretty strong to be able to keep going.

Its clear there have been some rough times but with those times we have also had some pretty spectacular times to help us through the year. Leonardo Dicaprio won his first Oscar that for him had been long awaited, the 2016 Rio olympics that showed what hard work and dedication can do, there was the first ever flower grown in space which honestly is amazing, bit random but someone bought a piece of John Lennon's hair, we had more from J K Rowling with the wizarding world giving us Harry Potter and the cursed child, Fantastic Beasts and where to find them revealing there will be another four films to follow and a musical that very quickly became one of my favourites this year Hamilton managed to get 3.3million in a week on Broadway setting a new record.
This year has been one to take with a pinch of salt I hope next year treats us all kinder and gives us a few more things to look forward to, I hope what ever you do this New Years Eve you have fun stay safe and look forward to 2017.

Happy New year

love always Thinking out loud xx :D 

07/12/2016

Tell me it's love, final page

    Tell me it's love, final page

     A couple of months had gone by with in that time I had felt myself falling for Tadhg more with each passing day. It was so easy to forget about everything that had happened in the past, I felt myself forgetting why I had lost my trust in men. I was finally finding someone I could start trusting and start looking towards what the future might hold in store for us. I found myself getting excited for things I never knew I could be happy about for the first time I was starting to see a future where I wasn't going to be alone this was something I was happy to let happen. 

     I had told Anna about everything that had happened on the night we had met him and his friends, I told her where we had gone after we had left the bar, she seemed surprised with the fact I had given someone a chance. 
      Tadhg and I had spent time getting to know each other, finding out where each one was from and what jobs we did, it was nice just  being able to talk.I had been with other guys in the past who didn't want to just sit and talk it felt nice being able to feel comfortable as opposed to uncomfortable which was how I usually felt around men. Tadhg was a nice, kind someone I could tell knew how to treat woman something I knew I had longed for so long but wasn't sure I could trust someone I had just met no matter how kind he seemed this time I knew I had to take my time I couldn't risk getting hurt again. But i was still longing to have what everyone around me had i only needed someone to tell me it was love.

26/10/2016

Tell me it's love, page four

Tell me it's love
page four

“here we are, after you May.” I walked into the cafe Tadhg holding the door open for me. “hi Tadhg  what can I do for you tonight mate.” it seemed like he came here often “just the usual times two please” we sat down at a table and waited for whatever had been ordered I played with the salt and pepper shaker that was sat in front of me “so do you come her often?” I stopped and looked him in his eyes them making me want to fall even more but that was something I knew I couldn't do, “just when I'm on late's at work or out with the boys like tonight. I like to come here and get a coffee and something to eat.” I felt weird nothing like I had ever felt before being with a guy. Our drinks came and so did our a food a bagel full of everything you want when you are a little bit drunk not that I liked admitting I was a little drunk. “this is going to be the best thing you've had whilst being drunk.” I looked at his cheeky grin as he spoke, “I'm not drunk just tipsy.” “say's the one who spilt her drink one me.” “I thought we'd agreed that was your fault.” “you got me.” he held his hands up in defeat. We'd only just met but we were already joking around with each other I had put this down to the amount of alcohol we had both consumed but never the less it felt nice being able to be at ease with someone who an hour ago was a stranger.
      He made it so effortless for me to be myself nothing like the guy I had my last relationship with who was always controlling, I felt like this was the first time I was actually being myself in about three years. Something I never thought would have been possible. Maybe Anna was right maybe it was time for me to start having fun I found it hard to move on but what did I have to loose he had clearly moved on so why couldn't I why did it always have to feel like women couldn't move on maybe now it was time to change that it was finally time for me to start being able to be the person I was before I had my heart ripped from me before it was burnt and broken.

19/10/2016

Tell me it's love, page three

Tell me it's love 
page three

“so who's the birthday girl?” one of Tadhg's friends asked, Anna put her hand up acting cute “me it's my birthday” “well I think I'd best get you a drink to celebrate.” Anna loved this even though she was with someone she still liked to flirt with other guys just so she knew she could still get a guys attention. I, on the other hand, was happy to sit back and let her flirt although I wasn't sure her boyfriend Donny would be too impressed. “Anna you have a boyfriend don't lead the poor guy on.” “May it's a drink and you know me anytime I can get a free drink I take a person up on the offer plus it's my birthday I'm allowed to let my hair down once in awhile.” “exactly Anna your hair and nothing else just don't let him get the wrong idea.” we stopped talking as Tadhg's friend came back with a drink for both him and Anna.

We had been sat for awhile and had several rounds of drinks mine all lemon vodkas slowly going on to orange juice as the night went on, I wasn't the type to mix my drinks. Tadhg had tried several times of getting me on my own but something was holding me back from getting to know more about this cute Irish guy who had been looking at me throughout the night. I felt a little poke from Anna next to me. I looked to see what she wanted “give him a break I don't mind if you need to go early, ya no for an early night, he seems like a good guy.” “I know I just,” I stopped myself from saying I don't know instead I decided I would give him a chance maybe Anna was right. “fine but if this all backfires I'm holding you accountable but please behave yourself.” “don't worry about me May, I'll be absolutely fine.” 
I stood up from the table saying my goodbyes to the girls and Anna and my nice to meet yous to Tadhg's friends. I walked out  of the bar it not taking long for Tadhg to follow me out. “hi” I was shy as I spoke knowing how easily I could fall for this guy. “hey, um, do you want fancy going somewhere the nights still young and so are we I know this little cafe that is open until the early hours a friend of mine owns it.” “sounds good.” I followed Tadhg as he led the way. I couldn't help looking at him taking everything in about him and everything he was saying realising that he wasn't the person I thought he was he was kind, caring nothing like anyone I had known before and I had known him for all of about two hours. I felt like I was becoming more like Anna something I wasn't sure was a good thing.

12/10/2016

Tell me its love page two

Tell me it's love
page two

I got back to the girls placing my drink on the table as I sat down next to Anna, "You took your time getting your drink" "yeah it was along line must be getting to that time of night." Being in London had its pluses but also came with its downsides like having to wait in a line at a bar to get a drink. Though I knew that wasn't true and I had just lied to Anna something I was never good at. 
    "Come on I know you May you can't lie to me and I was watching you there was no line," she looked at me with one of her looks the one you get when you know she's going to totally embarrass you if you're not careful. "there was a guy I saw you talking to he looked cute." "Anna I know what you're thinking but no he would never go for anyone like me besides it's still too soon." "May you can't still be hung up on that it's been three years I think it's time you moved on and started living your life again, he could be the one to help you, what's his name?" "I know Anna but I can't forget it I was in love, or so I thought but if I'm honest I don't think I'd be able to trust someone again, I never got his name I got away before we'd even had chance to introduce ourselves." 
    I could tell Anna wasn't impressed with my antics but what was I suppose to do when I was still hurt by someone who no longer loves me or even needs me not that I was loved in my last relationship it ended in a way I'd never want to see happen again I was used and hurt beyond the point of being able to trust a single man again if I was to be with anyone he was going to have to be someone who was totally out of this world something I knew would never happen.I let everything go and tried to enjoy myself if not for me then for Anna and the girls. Who were thankfully still having there vodka shots, rum and whiskey chasers. 

I saw Anna giving me a weird look and then all the girls were looking at me as if I had something on my face. "What, what is it why are you all looking at me funny" I was becoming worried and confused as to what was happening it wasn't until Anna was pointing her finger for me to look behind me. "Hi sorry to creep up on you like this but I never got your name and I don't think you got mine either." I was speechless "May talk to him, I'm sorry my friend here she's not that great with talking to people." "Anna” I gave her evil eyes before quickly apologising to the incredibly cute Irish guy behind me. “I'm the one who should be sorry it's actually my friend here who isn't great with people. As you've probably gathered my names May." 
     I could see he was laughing but I didn't say anything else as I was too embarrassed with Anna and her ways. "cute name mines Tadhg pronounced like tiger the animal but spelt like T-a-d-h-g.” “hi, great name.” I thought now was about time I actually said hi to him considering I had spilt my drink on him earlier “about before I'm sorry again for spilling some of my drink on you I wasn't looking behind me.” “honestly it's fine and like I said I shouldn't of been stood so close to you.” 
    Everyone else had gone back to talking but Anna “would you like to join us I can see May is too shy to ask.” I glared at Anna hoping he would decline “I would love to but I'm actually here with some friends.” before I had chance to step in Anna was already talking “that's fine they can join us as well more the merrier.” so that was it Tadhg was off getting his mates and I was sat there becoming more of a mess “you'll thank me later.” Anna whispered in my ear before Tadhg came back with his friends.

05/10/2016

Tell me it's love

Hi Thinking out loud here :D 

I have decided for the next month or so I am going to post a page from a short story I am writing each week, as this is what I intended this blog to be so I will see how this short story goes and who knows I might upload more short stories as and when I write them, for now, I hope you enjoy the first short story of hopefully many more to come. 

Tell me it's love

For so long I'd gone thinking I'd never find anyone thinking I wasn't any good for anyone. I saw friends happy and with someone who cared about them, someone they could trust, someone they could love and someone they could grow old with. For so long I thought I'd never have that I thought I would only ever be with someone who would use me. 

That was until I went out one night for my friend Annas birthday I wasn't expecting anything to happen, it was just meant to be a few quiet drinks with the girls. One thing, lead to another and where we ended up in town going around a handful of bars to assist us on our merely way. As none of it was planned I hadn't exactly dressed myself up for a night on the town nor had I dressed myself up to look like I was someone a guy would even look at. If anything I looked like I was staying in at home, in all honesty, that's what I thought we were doing.

We got sat down at yet another table in yet another bar in east London Anna had gone to get another round of vodka shots followed by rum and then whisky chasers. I'd managed to dodge myself out of the drinks whilst I got my own from the bar I opted for a lemon vodka as it seemed to be the best option going. I picked up my drink and turned around after paying. I was met by a human wall I bumped into the person spilling some of my drink. "I am so sorry can I help you dry your top or pay for a new one." I couldn't have been sorrier even if I had tried. 

A thick Northern Irish accent flooded my ears "no it's fine it's my fault I shouldn't have been standing so close behind you please let me get you a drink, I am the one who made you spill it on me." I looked up to see where the Irish accent came from but all I could see was big blue eyes looking down at me I instantly felt weak but knew now wasn't the time to start falling for anyone. "No, it's fine I still have plenty left beside not a lot was spilt and I'm really sorry if it ruins your top. I'd best be getting back to my friends." I left the guy standing at the bar I felt his eyes watching me as I walked away but I didn't dare look back.



page two will be up next Wednesday please let me know what you think down in the comments.

hope you have are having a lovely day

love always Thinking out loud xx :D

28/09/2016

Wanting to quit school part 2

Hi Thinking out loud here :D

Here is the second part of my blog post from last week, (also side note from my blog post it's going to feel weird writing my blog today as I am currently flatting at a friends house with some more friends so I'm not in my usual place for writing, but change is always a good thing not to mention it's fun as well.) back to today's blog which same as lasts weeks I started writing it three weeks ago now.

(Three weeks ago me) Now I know its that time of year for a lot of kids who have just gone back to school after the six weeks holiday if it is indeed still called a six weeks holiday and you are probably already dreading the year ahead but trust me when I say just enjoy it your only at school for a short time compared to the rest of your life this goes the same for college, university and any other further education you can get, it might seem like it's never going to end but one day you won't be at school where you see your friends five days a week or where you have people who are looking out for you or where sometimes some big life lessons get learnt, ok you might be the kid who sits in the corner if that is you make this the year where you step out of that comfort zone and do something new it could be the best year you've had at school. Or if you're the kid who gets bullied don't let the bullies get to you one day you could be the bullies boss, find a group of people who are like you and make friends with them instead of feeling like you don't belong it might take time but at the end of the year it will all be worth it trust me, even if it's one friend that's one more friend that you both didn't have before.

If you are the bully think about what you're doing, think about how you'd feel if it was you being bullied, you might think it makes you tough but honestly it really doesn't if anything it makes you look weak because you feel the need to intimidate or scare someone. Being a bully isn't something to be proud of what are you going to tell your kids in ten, fifteen years time when they ask you what you were like at school, do you really want to tell them that you made other kids scared to walk past you in a corridor that you made others too scared to even go to school let alone to wake up in a morning, that you hurt someone physically, mentally or emotionally that it cut them deeper than you know, that they go home crying every day because they can't cope with how you treat them. That they might have thoughts that you don't ever want to have because not only is it you who haunts them but it's the thought as well. Is that the person you want your kids to know because that is what you will have to tell them. So if you are a bully why not try to change that why not try to be the bigger person by not having to pick on someone, or by not having to call someone a name or push them just because they might be in your way whatever it is you do why not change it. If you're in a group why not be the one to stop the bullying instead of carrying it on you never know it might just make a difference to someone's life instead of ruining a life you might actually save a life.

I don't know about you but at the school I went to there was always a group of kids who were seen as the popular kids but I honestly have no idea why, so to the 'popular' kids who actually aren't all that popular, look around you school doesn't revolve around who you are, what you wear or even how you act. There is more to worrying about your makeup and whether you skirt is too long for guys what your hair might look like or if you put enough deodorant on (too much so people have to hold their noses when they walk past you,), trust me if you worry about that now what are you going to be like when you've left school no one in the 'real' world cares about what you look like we're all oo busy going about our own lives to care what people think, I'm not saying don't care about how you look like at all just pick the right time to care about how you look. Please whatever you do don't become the person who isn't seen as being as smart as they are, ok you might be blonde that doesn't mean you have to go with stereotypes you can still be smart, and don't be on your phone for the whole of class you will wish you'd paid more attention when it comes round to exams, after all, that's what break times are for so you can use your phone. I get that it's not only girls who are in this category but guys as well to them please don't act like you know everything nine times out of ten you probably don't plus it makes you look like you are trying too hard to fit in just be you if you don't get something ask for help it's not the end of the world, if you're trying to impress a girl tell her don't try and act like your everything in front of your mates if you can't be the person you are with your mates with her don't even bother trying it won't end well, and to girls trying to impress guys try talking to them like actually talking don't try to be cute and girly just be yourself even if it means you have to be the one who goes to them first do it, it doesn't always have to be the guys.

(today me) For kids who are starting a new school like going into year 7 or moving schools for whatever reason, relax I know it's scary I've been in that position twice the first time I hated it but the second I found it easier as I wasn't the only new kid. And don't listen to everything the big kids say as it generally isn't even true if it's stories about the school then that's all it is a story unless a teacher says otherwise. Don't suck up to anyone either what I mean by that is don't make it look like you're willing to do anything and everything around the school, try doing something's that will help teachers but don't become that kid who has to do everything the teacher asks for. Just relax you still have plenty of time to help with teachers and other members of staff make it a priority to make friends and enjoy school while it lasts it goes by quicker than you think it will believe me.

(past me this part goes with last week's post) In a nutshell what I'm saying is if it's your final year or if you are coming up to your final year and want to leave think twice you could be missing out on the best year of school the year where you make most of your memories the year where you get the best grade you've ever got or the year where you help someone you haven't helped before or didn't even know, the final year is honestly the best year of school, it's sad, it's a laugh trust me it really is, your at a stage where you've never known your teachers more than you do now and likewise they've never known you more than they have now, they have a bond with you that you will never know because as teenagers the world revolves around you and your mates but when they say something you don't agree with they are only looking out for you. You're going to have ups and downs but life is full of them they don't stop once you leave school in fact the real ups and downs start once you've left school, enjoy the freedom school gives you life gets harder once you leave, big decisions have to be made and no it's not what you're going to wear or how your hair looks. Take on the things school throws at you listen to your teachers, make this year easy for both you and them they have a lot of kids to think about not just you. But out of everything enjoy it because seriously once you leave you are going to miss it. Had I left when I was sixteen, seventeen I'd of missed so much I'd of missed making stronger friendships and learning that not all teachers are right not all are wrong but all are only looking out for you. They say weird stuff but so do you, they try to speak to you like an adult but stop when you don't act like one. Don't act stupid act like a person they want to talk to if you need help don't flog them off when they try to help you.

School, is like a blink it's there one minute and gone the next, it's a small chapter in your book, it's a blessing so many don't get to have but so many kids dream about having, it's a privilege to be able to go to school don't take it for granted. But of course having said all that school isn't for everybody but please give it a chance if it really isn't for you talk to your parents they won't like it but they will always want what's best for you but make sure you have a plan of what you want to do as they won't just let you stay home and do nothing. You're not alone in wanting to leave to start the rest of your life but just know leaving school isn't always the easy road out.

(today me) I now a lot of this you're probably thinking yeah right none of that is true but from experience, it all is true as most of the things I have thought, gone through or know people who have gone through it. Appearance is one thing but who you are on the inside is another thing, I know teenagers can be egotistic but ego isn't everything everyone has their own troubles that no one knows about treat people the way you want to be treated and the same will happen for you, what you put out you are guaranteed to get back so think about what you want to get back later in life, who you are now today this very second is a totally different person to who you maybe tomorrow or next week don't let who you are now, determine who you might be next week if you want to change how you are with people then  don't let that hold you back if it's for the best.

I'm so sorry this is another long blog post but not much to go I promise I will try to not make it much longer. I feel like it isn't only school kids who have these problems I feel like it goes for anyone who is still in education. This being college uni etc. I know it is a big thing the next step after school I've tried it and found it wasn't for me, I did a six month course with a year course to go to after at one of the best music schools in NZ the fact that I got a place still blows my mind but that aside I had changed my mind and realised my feelings had changed and I wanted to do something else which as well all know is writing. To a lot of people it's obvious what they want to do and others not so much even going to uni and sticking with it doesn't always make you find out what you want to do that's just how these things go sometimes, a lot of the time we don't feel like we are old enough for how quickly our lives are going but that's kinda how things have always been. Once again you are the new kid with a bunch of others you're not alone, you are all there to find out what you want to do when you finish your degree, course or diploma but like wen you were at school enjoy it ok it's going to be so much harder than school and it will be a shock but enjoy it you have so many memories to make don't miss out on them, spend time working but don't forget to give yourself a break once in awhile just don't go crazy with the partying remember you still want to pass what you are doing.

When it comes down to it we have all been there whether you still are or its been years since you were in a school environment being taught we all know the struggles and the good times that can be had. We all take things differently but it doesn't mean we all don't or didn't have fun because I'm sure we all did. For people still at school enjoy it, make the most of it, make as many good memories as possible, don't let what you think people think of you get to you be you, be who you want to be it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks at the end of the day they're being them so you be you I feel like I've said this before but everyone else has been done everyone else is taken apart from the person you are no one else is like you and that what makes us all different, yes there is stereotypes and cliques but that doesn't mean you have to be one of them. School is like a roller coaster it goes fast, slow, up, down and it even goes in loops you get on in year 7 and get of in year 11, 12,13 (depending on the country you live in) there's moments of excitement and moments of fear don't let the fear hold you back from enjoying it, it's a moment in time that won't last long, it's a place where you learn who to be friends with and who not to be friends with, it's your time to see who you are and to start to think about who you want to be.

If you take anything away from last week's blog and this weeks blog then please let it be this, we choose who we want to be, people they come and go so does school but who you are stays, how you treat someone sticks with that person (first impressions quite literally are everything) if you are rude to one person that is how they will see you if you are kind to one person that is how they see you, if you are a bully at school you are always going to be seen as a bully to that person you bully it doesn't matter how much you change when you are older but that hurt and pain isn't ever going to go away for your victim they won't see you as being a changed person if anything they will see it as an act and not as you being you, if you are seen as being popular you will always be seen as that even once you've left school and are no longer popular your peers will always see you as that person likewise for the kid who works hard at everything you do you will be seen as that person which honestly isn't always a bad thing. What I'm saying is people will always have their opinions on the type of person you are, so make it easy for them by making them see you as being someone they want to be around, put egos aside and let people know the real you without them wanting to run at the first chance they get.

Once again I am so so sorry this is a long blog post but I felt like this was a topic I've been wanting to talk about for awhile and it's something I would have loved to have read when I was still at school. I guess in a way it's a letter to a younger me but also to anyone who needs to read this if you can pass it on to anyone you know who is currently at school etc. and would benefit from reading this I would love to have as many school kids as possible to read this. leave comments if you are going through any of this or if you went through any of this, I think it would be interesting on seeing other peoples views on this topic.

As always thank you for reading I hope you are having an amazing day and see you next week for another blog


Love aways Thinking out loud xx :D

22/09/2016

Wanting to quit school

Hi Thinking out loud here :D

Sorry I haven't uploaded for two weeks and a day, I did actually start writing this blog post two weeks ago but never got around to finishing or uploading it which is why I've decided to upload it today hope you enjoy.

(Flashback to two weeks ago when I started writing this post.) I'm currently watching an interview of Passenger aka Mike Rosenberg, (as you do on a Friday night.) and in it he talks about leaving school at sixteen, an age I would have loved to have left school, had I still been in England I would have been fifteen (with my birthday being at the end of the school year) but given I moved to New Zealand it was then eighteen which I found extremely hard. (today me) before I go any further thanks to Mike for the inspiration for this post.

(back to past me for now) The reason why I'm choosing this as my blog posts for this week given I'm actually no longer at school as of 2013 is because the other day my mum reminded me as to why I actually stayed on till I was eighteen something when I was seventeen was adamant I wasn't going back for the final year. Although I have only one real reason as to why I went back a lot of other reasons made me stay during the year, now you're probably thinking one reason that's not good enough to make me decide to go to school, now it probably isn't but had it not been for this reason I probably wouldn't have realised how much I enjoyed my final year and the memories I got to make. It's all simply because of one friend who said if I wasn't at school on the first day she was going to come and get me to make me go to school, something I didn't want her doing so I, of course, went back to school, plus if we had a study period last we got to go home at lunch time, and we didn't have to wear uniform which was a bonus which now my old school for year 13 have to wear uniform a bit of a step backwards if you ask me. Had I been there now I think I would have left along with most of my year group, plus we still got tret like kids which was a downside but on a plus, I saw my friends every day and had classes with some which made the day go so much quicker.

For me going back for a final year was hard, for so long I had wanted to leave school as nearly every lesson was spent with me looking out of the window wishing I could be elsewhere. I know a lot of kids do that but for me, it was so easy to go so deep into a daydream that I wouldn't be able to hear what the teacher was saying because I was so lost in my thoughts. I used to dream of being anywhere else but school. It wasn't that I got bullied because I didn't ok there were certain groups I'd stay clear off but that's just because I didn't want to get involved with drama that went on in those groups, it isn't that I hated the teachers because for most of my schooling I had some pretty great teachers just the odd one or two that weren't but who doesn't have at least one teacher who isn't great. It wasn't that I didn't do well it's just that for some reason I didn't like school, I didn't like the idea of school and I didn't like going to school I used to fill with dread in a morning of “oh I have to go to that place again great.” I hated the thought of leaving the house and having to spend six and a bit hours in a place I didn't want to be, had it not been for the group of friends I had and still have I wouldn't have carried on at school I would probably have left given the first chance like Mike.

I can tell you now it's ok to enjoy school, it's ok to want to go every day you are making more memories every day you are doing something new learning something new, this is the most social your life is going to be, so enjoy it, I worried too much about what people would think of me if I did something or what people would say if I joined an extra curriculum, you know what it doesn't matter what anyone says if you want to join a club at school do it, if it isn't something your friends don't like that doesn't matter you're doing it for you not them if they don't like that side of you then maybe they're not you real friends, don't be scared of losing them as once you leave school you probably won't see them all again.

(back to today's writing) past me wrote some more to this blog but I feel like it doesn't fit with what I've written and what I want to add so that will be next weeks blog post. I wrote about how I had one real reason and I did but during the year other things happened that made me dare I say it enjoy my final year, I had chosen subjects that I wanted to do and that I found interesting I dropped the subjects I didn't want to do mainly because they were no longer compulsory. My favourite subjects that I choose were photography (which I did for two years and passed both,) media studies which I took for three years (passed two and only just passed the last year but still enjoyed it none the less) creative pattern (if I'm honest was a fill in subject but I did enjoy it) English (which everyone had to take but I still enjoyed as I was with a group of friends who I chatted to non-stop plus I was on a table with a guy I liked who was also in my media studies class as well, that's probably why not much work got done in either of those classes,) business (as I thought it would be a good idea to know some stuff about money and banking before I left school) study (which we had to take in yr 13 no complaints there) art extension (which was like another study class but where you were able to work on your art projects.)

One of my favourite times of day was actually form class as I had one of the best form teachers anyone could ever have. He was one of the longest teachers there but was one of the few who was able to really connect with teenagers, we'd spend half an hour or thereabouts watching youtube varying from, Achmed the dead terrorist and America's got talent to name a few we'd also occasionally watch the big bang theory one of his favourite programmes and many more some of which would have to get paused when the HOD of science walked in for obvious reasons.
Along with being able to choose most of the subjects I had other things to look forward to such as the ball or prom depending on where you are from, at my school we had two balls one in year 12 and one in year 13 although both year groups went to the same ball you just had the chance to go twice which I did. The final one honestly wasn't as great as the first one but that didn't matter as the whole group went to it which made it great. We also had yr 13 leavers jumpers which again weren't amazing but it's made some memories of my final year, plus we had a leavers dinner which was again ok but again it was memories along with a walk to school on our final day which was really good as everyone dressed up and had fun.

I'd say if there is anyone having doubts about there last year whether you've just gone back or you're still finishing off your second to final year, then don't I can guarantee in a years time you will be so glad you stayed on. Trust me it seems like a drag now but once you get there to having finished schoOl and stayed till the very end you will be so proud of yourself that you stayed when it would have been so easy to leave, only leave if you do have something already planned out and somewhere to go when you leave that year early, I'm not going to lie and say it was easy going back for a final year because it really wasn't it was a struggle some mornings but I kept reminding myself of the reasons that made me want to go and that was enough to keep me going. I didn't want to sit dow and have that dreaded talk with my parents where I said I want to leave and them give me a list of things that would happen if I did, yes I so badly wanted to but I had nothing to go to I had nothing to do, I didn't have a backup plan that I could give to them as at eighteen I still was fully sure what I wanted to do which is the case for so many sixteen to eighteen yr old. I wanted to do music but then I wanted to do writing both things I still love but writing being the thing I have chosen to do but it took me a year and a half after leaving school to decide that, that was what I wanted to do.

Leaving school early isn't the end of the world but there are so many memories to make in that final year, I'm glad I stayed but I get it's not for everyone had I not stayed I wouldn't have had my best year at school it took me my whole schooling to enjoy school, now that I'm not there anymore I'm so thankful for my friend who got me to go back had it not been for her who knows what I'd be doing now nd who knows what I'd have missed out on.

That's it from me for this week sorry it wasn't up yesterday or two weeks ago, hope you enjoy reading let me know in the comments when you left school did you leave at sixteen? Like passenger or did you stay to the end? Like me.


love always Thinking out loud xx :D  

31/08/2016

Feelings

Hi Thinking out loud here :D 

First of all, I can't believe it's been a week already since I wrote about seeing Passenger like what that is just crazy, I honestly feel like time is going quicker as I'm getting older. Anyway moving on to today's blog it's a little bit of a poem hope you like it. 

Feelings
by Freya Anastasia Hatfield

Feelings don't care who you are, 
Feelings don't care if you're a man or a woman.
They don't care if you've just lost a loved one 
Or if you've just found a new one.
Feelings only care if they make you aware, 
Aware of your emotions that once may have been drained, 
Aware of your surroundings and whether they are safe,
Aware of people around who either care about you or don't
To make sure you know you're never alone.
Feelings come in all shapes and sizes 
They just want you to notice them no matter how small.
They want you to know that they are always there 
Even if you feel like you can't feel anything they don't want you to be scared,
Feelings can be powerful if you listen to them right 
Don't push them away and say 
Oh, I'll listen another time.
It's not as easy to say 
I hear you I know you're there please stay around if you dare.
They only want you to pay attention 
They don't last long and this is their intention.
They make you fall
They make you fly.
But best of all they make you see love at first sight 
Whether this is true I guess will never know 
But don't forget feelings are the best secret we know!

Now time for a bit of a celebration I have hit 500 views on my blog, for me this is crazy to think that 500 people have read what I write so thank you so much to anyone who has taken the time to read any of my blog posts, I never imagined I'd have that many page views so thank you, for me it isn't about how many people follow my blog or how many people read it, for me its the fact that I have somewhere to write the fact that people read it is a bonus. 

In other news, I have started looking for writing competitions I'm looking for any kind of writing competitions so if you come across any please let me know.

thank you again and I hope you all have a very lovely day, I'm now going out for a lovely walk with a friend this weather we have had lately makes it feel like summer I love it. :D

love always Thinking out loud xx :D 

26/08/2016

Passenger

Hi Thinking out loud here :D

today's blog I have been so excited to write I feel like this is going to be the easiest blog to write to date so here we go.

As I'm sure you are aware I had my birthday on the 5th August and I turned 21, and one of my friends gave me two tickets to see Passenger (Michael Rosenberg) for a little concert before he comes back in January to tour.

So on Monday another friend and I went to see him. Let me just say this he is amazing and through every song unless he had asked us to sing the whole room was silent, I feel like you know a musician is really good if they are able to keep a room as quiet as it was with everyone so captivated by his songs, voice and guitar playing.

The night started with my dad and I picking my friend up from the bus so we could go to the next town to catch the bus into the city. My friend and I thought we had missed the bus but we bet it to the stop with a couple of minutes to spare, giving us chance to say hi to another friend who was just getting off the same bus we were getting on. It took us a little over half an hour to get into the city which I was surprised by as it normally takes an hour by bus, having said that we did take an express bus which doesn't take as long as it normally would had we been going on a normal bus, plus the time of day we were heading down meant not many people would be getting on.

We made it into the city with a little under an hour so instead of taking another bus which we had previously said we would do, we decided to walk which I'm so glad we did as it only took us about fifteen minutes had we taken the bus it would have taken closer to five meaning we would have been far too early as doors opened at seven and we got to the venue for about six twenty-five so we still had to wait. We sat at a table by some outdoor heaters to keep warm as if I'm honest I am like a human reptile seriously I can be freezing and everyone else around me can be warm, and my friend is like a human heater which is amazing for me if my hands are cold she just holds them and warms them for me and likewise if hers are too hot I hold them and cool them down for her. We sat and chatted about random things as you do as we watched people arrive.

We carried on waiting then made our way to line that was forming, some very kind girls who were in line before us had seen that we had been waiting longer than them so they let us go in front making us third in line, I'm so thankful they did that as by the time we had got to the line it was starting to get longer by the minute. We stayed waiting and my friend goes damn I feel like sushi the girl in front also said she had been wanting sushi then all three of us were like damn I want sushi no thanks to my friend. We had been waiting in the line for maybe five minutes if that when the doors were opened.

A guy came out and told us to have our own tickets so it made scanning them easier and then we had to also get a stamp on our right wrist. With us being third in line it didn't take long for us to be inside, we went and stood by the stage whilst others got food and drinks whilst waiting until eight for when Passenger came on. The hour consisted of us talking and laughing saying one of us should get up on stage and entertain everyone whilst we waited for him, needless to say, neither of us did. if one of us had done it would have been beyond embarrassing (it was, however, my idea kind of but I would never go through with it especially not in front of so many people.) My friend mentioned whether we should go and talk to people to be normal, as we are both shy in situations like this we don't normally talk to people we don't know unless we are with someone who does know them or who isn't shy around random people which we weren't so we stayed talking to each other in our comfort zones if I'm honest I thought she had gone a little crazy but it turned out she didn't want to talk to anyone either so our normal was resumed we had talked to people in the line but everyone pretty much kept themselves to themselves and who they were with.

At eight another guy came on stage introducing Passenger (not that he would ever need to be introduced to a crowd,) this is when everyone cheered as you do. I didn't take many photos or videos of Passenger performing but what I did take I will put up keep your eyes peeled I did this so I could enjoy being there and enjoy the experience of being in a small venue with about two hundred people if that.

There was a mixture of new and old songs including one which isn't on his new album (which is out on 23rd September) he just felt like playing it. for those of you who aren't familiar with Passengers songs there isn't very many that are happy, in fact, he played two happy songs within the hour he was on stage the rest well not so happy. Personally, I feel like his songs have more meaning and more emotion to them because they're not happy. The first song was kinda like a love song but then after he said he and this girl had since broken up not the best start to the night but like I said his songs aren't generally happy and neither are the back stories to them. The song had so much meaning and you could tell it was a hard song for him to sing given it's now about an ex. Passenger gave back stories to his songs including telling us that he had recorded some songs in a studio just down the road from where we were in Auckland.

Because we had been so quiet and no one was really drunk unlike at some of his gigs, he said he sometimes goes into the audience and performs a song he asked if that would be OK of course we all said yes so here is a photo of him in the crowd singing I don't think a lot of musicians these days would be able to do this without a microphone or speakers and still sound amazing I honestly think there is no one else quite like him music wise.


There is one song in particular that he played which if I'm honest struck a chord with me 'Riding to New York' off of his album Whispers, I didn't cry but my god was it hard stopping myself, here's the thing I'm the person who will cry at a song and openly admit it but I'm the annoying person won't and can't cry at a film or at least I haven't found a film that I've cried at yet, for me I feel the emotion in songs more than I do when it's being acted out on a screen. the reason why I felt so strongly pulled to this song than other songs is because of the back story he told, he met an old man 60/70 years old who was I think sat outside of a gas station and smoking at the time Michael (Passenger) was on his way to buy some cigarets when the old man starts talking to him, he sat down next to him and the guy says “this is the best cigarette I've ever had” and of course Michael is like what, the old man told him he'd just found out he had lung cancer from smoking since he was a kid. He'd bought a bike so he could ride to see his family and spend more time with them and ride out the last of his life.

It touched me because I have gone through the very same thing with a family member, for me it was like I was the granddaughter in the song only I made the journey back to England, it made me realise how similar people's lives are but most of all it reminded me of the trip I made and the not so happy memories that come with that trip, it made me see that what I went through I wasn't alone and that the feelings that go with it are normal it felt like the lyrics were describing what fourteen year old me went through. I haven't connected to a song so strongly before so much so to the point that the story behind it and the lyrics are still sticking.

I haven't seen a lot of live performances but Passenger is without a doubt the best one so far simply because of the talent he has, the songs he writes the emotion he puts into them and the fact that, that shows when he sings them. It's easy to see he can get lost in a song when he gets so into it then stops to say “I've messed up the carpet” in his adorably cute Brighton accent and straightens it out before carrying on with the song which happened when he played 'I hate' which he made us all sing along to as if we didn't then of course we would have been racist and we can't have him thinking that Aucklanders are racist, in this song he also swears a lot so if you are thinking of going and seeing him just keep in mind that he does swear a bit it wasn't just in this song it was when he'd stop and talk and in some other songs too just in case you want to take little ones and their ears aren't used to swear words.

Of course, he also played the song that got him to where he is now, to being able to do what he loves every day, that song being 'let her go' which has an astounding 1 billion plus views on YouTube. I find it amazing that a guy who started out busking is now living a life so many people dream about living. I actually said to my friend after that watching him makes me want to be able to perform but I know I would be a bag of nervous so I think I'll stick to singing in my bedroom and writing songs that might one day be out in public but who knows. He still goes out and buscks not because he has to but because he wants to as why should he stop when that's where he started I like that it gives people who wouldn't be able to see him a chance to see him perform, it's safe to say after Mondays gig I will definitely be seeing him again and buying his album when it comes out in September.

Given his new single came out last week here is a link to the video Passengers new single Anywhere which you should all give some love, let's see if we can get it to a million views as it deserves a million plus views. I love this song and I'm sure you will love it as much as I do. If you haven't seen Passenger perform live I recommend you do as it is way better than any video or any type of recording.

I'd like to finish with a massive thank you to Passenger (Michael) for being so amazing and a massive thank you to iheartradio and 2degrees who organised the gig and made it possible and another big thank you to my friend who gave me the tickets, all in all, I think its safe to say both my friend and I had a good night and I have refound my love for Passenger and his songs after awhile of having no listened to them.

And finally I lied at the beginning I said it would be easy to write this blog post in some ways it was and others it wasn't as my brain wanted to write everything at once which isn't humanly possible to do, it was, however, my favourite blog post to write and with the help of Passengers songs it isn't hard to see why. so I leave you with some more pictures that I took.

Here is the stamp we had to get on our wrist









I took this one just before he came on stage
yes that is a guitar with a fork as the head
as it's meant to be a tuning fork
hence the name of where we were




this one I took not long after he had
been on stage and yes this is how
close we were to him and no we
didn't touch him that would have
been weird on every kind of level





another one from when he came down
into the audience to perform a song









This one I took just after he left the stage
as I wasn't quick enough on opening my camera to get a final picture of him.








Now this one I obviously didn't take, but try and guess where it's from. I love how he can go from doing a normal face to pulling this face.


As always hope you enjoyed today's blog even with it being a day late I did start it yesterday just never got round to finishing it but I have without a doubt enjoyed writing it I hope you have a very lovely end to your week. Thanks again to Passenger and his song's for being my entertainment whilst writing this blog. Sorry its so long as I'm looking at the bottom of my page it's eight pages long so if you got this far well done and thank you for reading, next weeks won't be as long, I hope.

Love always Thinking out loud xx :D


P.S. A big congratulations to my little cousin who got exam results back from college today proud isn't even the right word but it's the only word I can think of, because she has worked so hard and has made me a very proud big cousin and I love her very much and wish I could be with her to celebrate such an amazing achievement, I won't put what she got as that's up to her to post her results I just wanted to say how proud she makes me feel.

17/08/2016

Words

Hey Thinking out loud here :D today is a bit of a poem kinda hope you enjoy,

Words
by Freya Anastasia Hatfield

Words are like my medicine
Without words I am nothing
I may be quiet
But I'm always thinking
My mouth not moving
But words on the tip of my tongue
Words are my life
Without them, I can not life
I read them
I write them
And I breathe them
Without words, I am not me
I am a writer
I see words everywhere I go
I see them on people
I see them on buildings
I see them where others miss them
To me, words are pictures, films, books, poems, songs
To me, words are everything and everywhere
To me, words are not just words but a way of life
For me being able to write isn't just a privilege it's a need
If I can not write then I can not see words
Without writing and without words
What would I be
Who would I be
And where would I be
Words are me
I am words
And words are the world
Words are my oyster
and the oyster that is the world!

Love always Thinking out loud xx :D

11/08/2016

Thirtieth Wedding Anniversary

Hi Thinking out loud here :D

Today is a blog post dedicated to my parents who celebrated their thirtieth wedding anniversary on Tuesday, with a little poem at the end hope you enjoy.

I find it amazing that they have reached this milestone it's something I feel a lot of couples don't get to, thirty years feels like a long time and it really is a long time, with in that time there has been ups and downs but mostly ups. They've made a family and made their own lives together that includes moving halfway around the world. Making a bit of better life so my brother and I didn't grow up with everything that was starting to happen around us in England, (don't get me wrong no country is perfect but England wasn't what it used to be when we left.)

My parents had risked everything with moving as we'd never previously been to NZ for that everyone thought we were crazy and maybe we were but ten years on and we are still here.Within the thirty years of marriage my parents have gone through a lot from getting jobs to leaving jobs to starting something totally new, from living with loved ones to loosing loved ones, of course none of this comes without its challenges, but through it all they've always shown love, friendship and trust, they've shown that a relationship can last a long time, they've shown that no matter what anything is possible. To me they are what a couple should be, they work together to keep a family going after all these years not only a family but a marriage a promise they made to each other thirty years ago a promise that they both stand by and show that they made that promise to each other and that they meant it then and they mean it now.

They show to my brother and I that time can get hard, life can be hard, a marriage can be hard but no matter what they stick together and they become stronger it's like they are two halfs of a heart when they are together the heart beats when they are apart they get by but they need the other half to fully survive.
Wedding Anniversary

Today you share your special day, 

you are two halfs of a heart that have found each other

you tick instinctively

and beat as one.

Thirty years some would say is a death wish 

others would say a miracle,

I would say it's an inspiration,

but today it's about you two.

Two people who are special and dear,

two people who have shown a love like no other,

a couple who love and are loved.

Yours is a marriage that means no end.

Thirty years is a milestone waiting to be met,

congratulations on meeting this milestone,

you are both pearls and the real deal.

Thirty years means you've seen a lot but there is more to be seen,

together you are stronger. 

happy 30th wedding anniversary!

may you have a day as special as you two, 

take in every moment and memory through out the next thirty years, 

as if it is like the first time you are meeting. 

To love, Family and a lifetime of memories

love you both always, 

Kipper xx


Thank you for reading today's blog post

Love always Thinking out loud xx :D

p.s sorry it's a day late xx

03/08/2016

The forgotten blog

Hi Thinking out loud here :D

well where to begin, I think I might start of with something a little exciting well for me it's exciting and it's something that doesn't happen everyday, a couple of weeks ago now some friends and I went to a filming of a tv show called Family Feud. For those of you who don't know what it is it's where two families of four go head to head in finding the top seven or so answers to a survey that '100' people have answered questions for. So anyway my friends and I are in the audience and we're on to our second sitting out of three, and the warm up guy (lets say his name is Dan,) was saying how the episodes that we the audience would be in would be out on his birthday. now i know what you're probably thinking thats kwl but what has this got to do with you. It just so happens that another guy and myself happened to have the same birthday as Dan. Lets just say once he found this out no thanks to my friend who said mine was on the same day (this Friday the 5th if you are wondering) he was rather excited it ended with the three of us hugging and having three photos taken one of which my friend took. For the rest of our time in the audience we instantly became his favourite people and every time we had a break from filming he'd keep coming back to us and being like you know what I mean August fifth buddies. I'll be honest I secretly enjoyed it as well because it really isn't everyday you find someone let alone two people in the same building with the same birthday as yourself.

Also within the same week I went clubbing for the first time and had such a great time although in hindsight I wish I had worn different shoes as my boots started to kill my feet by the time we had decided to finish.

In other news i'm starting to get so excited for Friday with it being my 21st i'm starting to feel so old even though a lot of people will consider me young I can't help but feel old as i'm one of the eldest out of my group of friends, but gah the rest of today and tomorrow and then i'm a twenty one year old seriously don't know how this has happened also next Tuesday my parents will have been married for thirty years like what the heck I can't even believe it such along time and seriously to me so inspiring that they have been married that long hopefully they will have another thirty plus years together.

I guess that's it from me sorry I have uploaded a blog in awhile just been busy with birthdays and writing hopefully will be more onto it next week sorry it isn't a long blog post but I feel like a long post every week is sometimes a little too much.

As always thank you for reading this blog post and I hope you all have a lovely day

Love always Thinking out loud xx:D

P.S. happy birthday to my friend who is 21 today :D