A personal and public blog including; short stories and musings about every day life and events. The author lives and works in the Land of The Long White Cloud - New Zealand.
12/11/2018
The last soldier
23/10/2018
Truths about writing
A little prior warning grab a drink, maybe a snack and find a comfy seat as this turned out to be longer than I intended.
It's been a while since I've uploaded a post and I know it isn't a Thursday but because it's been a while I feel it doesn't matter what day this goes up. So here I am I know I always say I'm back, but at least for this week, I am. I started this last Friday 19th October when I woke up at three am, I needed to write this post as it originally started out being a tweet but you will soon see why I had to turn it into a blog post. I got carried away by my words as usual oops.
Here are some things I have learnt since I've been writing and some things that no one tells you about writing, for anyone who is looking into being a writer of any kind.
Some truths about writing, nobody told me how hard it would be, looking for agents/ publishers, which one to go for, how to write an inquiry letter. The fact that you go to one they tell you to go to the other and vice-versa. Or on the website, it says send your name a bit about you, and that’s it, but then in an email, they question why you didn’t send them more information. (Well it’s because your website said don’t send anything other than your name,) When this happens I want to reply with, please update your website I'm not a mind reader, but I do reframe myself from that, and instead, I choose not to respond and move on to the next person to send my manuscript to.
Nobody tells you about the time you spend editing your own work, having no clue what you are doing because going to a professional editor is beyond expensive and the little knowledge you have you hope is enough to get you through your entire manuscript. Though this does have its upsides, you get to be as free as you want and you decide what to delete and what to keep baring mind you know the path you want the story to take. You never got told that sitting down at your computer, laptop or notepad how physically and mentally demanding it is, I wouldn't change it for the world but had I been told this I would have prepared myself more for what to expect and how to handle the emotions you get from writing.
Nobody told me that it takes time for your book to become published (three years on and still working away at getting published.) Its hard when you don't have a team behind you, or you aren't known, you don't just come up with the idea and its already deemed to become the next best seller. (In no way am I getting at anybody who this has happened to. I'm happy they have maybe full filled a life dream, but for your everyday person, I'm saying this doesn't always happen. So please don't get any ideas or think that this happens regularly because even those people still had to work hard to get known and have a team behind them first.)
Nobody told me it takes time going to publishers, agents and anybody who is in the book world with countless no replies or not this time or this isn't what we are looking for and the keep trying, but not having an end in sight. I do often wonder would it be easier if I started a YouTube channel, would I get seen quicker would I have an audience before I have published books but I honestly don't know, the fact is I wouldn't know what to say if I sat in front of a camera.
You don't hear about the times where you have nothing to write, but you have to keep writing, that's one reason why I'm so slack at the blogging because a lot of the time I'd rather not write anything than writing a load of rubbish. Its the same with writing books but at least I find with that I can go over it later and edit out the bad bits. I do however find writing calming, the quicker I type, the more calming it is. But when your ideas leave you it can be the most frustrating thing, and when that sometimes happens at weeks on end you do start to panic and think what if this happens when I have a publisher or an agent or both behind me, and they are asking for my work. I guess in that situation you just have to make it work you have to make the words flow even if they aren't there. That is one challenge I look forward to and am scared of having it happen.
Nobody told me that you’d randomly wake up at three am one morning not knowing what to do or where you’re going because for the past four years or so you’ve had no idea where you’re going apart from hoping that soon you get the email back that you are wanting.
Nobody told me that you suddenly get a feeling that life is slipping by, you're working towards a dream that you don't know if you can make happen. You know nobody in the industry you are trying to get into yet you keep going into the unknown. Its hard, it's scary, and over the past couple of weeks, I've silently started to find a shell to crawl into merely, so I don't have to pretend to not be scared of the future I know I want and am currently working towards having. It's hard when 90% of the time you are an introvert and could quite happily live in the realms of four walls but at the same time want to be an extrovert to push yourself up to where you know you need to be.
Nobody told me that you’d get this new found fear of the thought of your book no longer just being yours, but everybody's, the idea of criticism tearing you up even when you are nowhere near being at that stage in your writing career. This for me is something I think about daily, I at times am without a doubt my own worst critic so there are no words that anyone could say to me that is worse than what I say to myself, but hearing them from someone else will always affect you in a way your own words don't. So hearing anything negative about my work scars me but I know everybody has an opinion, I might not agree with it but they deserve to have one, and i can hand on heart respect it. I also know I can't please everyone, and I don't want to, I feel like pleasing everyone would be hard in itself. I hope that by the time I become an author I can learn to take it all on the chin as if they are criticising your work it at least means that is one extra person who has read it. I also can't wait for the lovely people who tell me they couldn't put down my book or how much they cried or that they felt something they could connect with because then I will know I have done everything right that I wanted to do.
Nobody told me how confusing it would be or how you get advice, but it isn't the advice you need, (don't worry I'm not going to just randomly stop drinking water) something I got told at the start of my writing journey. It's something I already knew as I already drank a fair bit of water during the day so drinking more wasn't going to change anything apart from the number of times I'd need to go to the loo.
So if you are as new to this as me or you've just started or even been writing for longer but have never been told any of this, then I’m here to say it isn’t easy. These feelings I'm feeling I’m not used to, and if you are feeling them too then, you're not alone. I know I need to carry on and make them help me with my writing, I can get past these hurdles and these fears to better my work to make me become the best writer I know I can be and of course any of you. I want to be a published author I want to push myself and get past all the hurdles. I want to get my books published, and I will I don’t know when and I don’t know how but I will. Having said that waking up at 3 and simply just scrolling through Twitter has been extremely calming and was something I didn't realise I needed to do (I did this on Friday morning, and I felt so much better for it, though come Saturday I was a lot more tired.)
Nobody told me your brain never switches off from writing I figured this out back in high school when I would wake up with ideas and had to write them down, I used to be tired on those days at school, but I couldn't help my brain not being quiet at night. It still isn't quiet, but I've learnt to turn off from writing long before I go to bed. I feel that this typically helps my brain, though it still likes to trip me up sometimes and gives me a paragraph or two that I have to get written before I can even think about switching off, even then I can't stop thinking about what I've just written.
So please be wary of continually needing to be somewhere where you can write. I've had holidays with the family and with friends where I've started not being able to wait to get back to writing, not because I'm not having a good time, I am. It's just that I go a week or two without writing and I feel like I'm losing a part of me, this to me is what living and breathing writing means once you get this far in there is no going back to a life without it.
Now for some advice, that to me would have been helpful had I been given it, this is for anyone just starting out with writing. Don't let the hard work freak you out, don't let the not knowing where you are going be where you stop. Yes it's hard, but you have moments of breakthroughs, you have moments of not knowing what you could achieve. Unlike the advice, I got of drinking more water my advice to you is write. Write when you don't want to, when you have no ideas, write when everything and everyone is telling you to stop. Yes drinking water is essential so is sleep but if you don't push yourself and write when it feels like everything is against you, you won't know how to become a better writer without having some days where you have nothing to write. I know I'm not published I know I'm not an author, but if I had read something like this at the beginning of my writing journey. I wouldn't have needed to have started writing this at four am, and not knowing where I'm going or what I'm doing or how to get to where I want to be. Because the days keep on passing, and I have four years of work and feel like I have nothing to show for it because I honestly have no idea how to get to where I want to be. I know I keep saying its hard and it is. It isn't just sitting behind a screen and writing it's creating a whole other world of people and problems and lives that are happening all in your head. It's not only your own life, but the characters you are writing about; I know that won't make sense to a lot of people, but to the ones, it does you know you are writers.
If you've read this far, thank you and if you are like me struggling, not knowing where to go and (have woken up because you feel so lost) you're not alone we can help each other find our way in this crazy confusing, wonderful writing world!
As always thank you for reading I hope you have a lovely day
Love always Thinking out loud xx :D
20/04/2018
Self Careathon Social, Funny Memory, Letter
17/04/2018
Self Creathon Create
16/04/2018
Self Careathon Treasure
15/04/2018
Self Careathon Kindness
Hi Thinking out loud here :D
Todays #blurtselfcareathon day 15 prompt is kindness.
Kindness is something we learn to do for other people, but when it comes to ourselves it always seems to be that little bit harder. We hear people say “you need to be kinder to yourself” but it’s never easy to actually do that, I think it’s because being harsher on us is easier it’s easy to be our own worst critic or to say things you know someone else won’t say because to us what we are thinking is true when in actual fact it isn’t.
Being kinder to other people is easier you know if you aren’t kind to them they’d take it wrong they’d take it as being rude or you having been brought up ‘wrong’ when you’d simply just being doing something we all do to ourselves.
Seen as this months goal is all about self care let today be about being kind to yourself, listen to people around you listen to what they are saying that’s kind that you maybe wouldn’t say to yourself. Let it sink in let that take over let it feel like you are the one saying it. It can be as simple as saying you’ve done a good job or that you are a nice person and today is your day, compliment yourself wear your favourite outfit and tell yourself how good you look, be the person you are to others for today let that person be you.
Thank you for reading have an awesome day, you look great in that outfit, this day is your day be kind to yourself you are doing amazing.
Love always Thinking out loud xx :D
14/04/2018
Self Careathon Squad
Self Careathon Doodle
Today’s #blurtselfcareathon day 13 prompt is doodle
I’m pretty sure I am right in saying we all love to doodle, it doesn’t matter how good or bad it is, in all honesty, a doodle doesn’t have to be amazing it can be lines on a page or full of detail. It can be something that helps you think before you start doing something or it can simply be something that relaxes you.
For me it’s both I doodle when I’m struggling for ideas to write it frees my mind without me noticing, though at the same time it helps me think, sometimes it’s deep thoughts where I can be anywhere but the room I’m sat in, it can be random thoughts that over a couple of minutes doodling turn into ideas for my characters. I also find it relaxing in times when writing does get too much it helps calm my mind those times I’m able to think of nothing but the creation I’m making with my doodle.
When I was at school it was something I did not because I wasn’t paying attention or because I was bored (I may have been but I think that was just how we got taught,) it helped me listen it helped me think about what we were doing or what we were going to be doing. It was something that genuinely helped make me focused and concentrated on what I was learning, there were times when I’d forget to listen but those were the times doodles needed to take over.
It’s amazing how when the brain is so focused on something it’s still working on other things like subconsciously thinking about what you maybe are meant to be doing, or calming you in away something different wouldn’t be able to. It’s something that we all do and all need to do.
I used to get told off for not paying attention because of my doodling when in actual fact I was able to pay more attention because of the doodle. I guess what I’m trying to say is if anyone tells you to stop doodling don’t it helps, it helps calm and keep the brain focused plus it’s something fun to do and lets you be as creative as you want to be. If it is that little line or detailed do a doodle today give your brain a rest, let your mind drift.
As much as we need time off so do our brains and doodling is a pretty good way of giving them a good rest for a little bit.
As always thanks for reading happy doodling and hope you all have a lovely day
Love always Thinking out loud xx :D
12/04/2018
Self Careathon Animals
Self Careathon Encourage
08/04/2018
Self Careathon Re-charge
By Freya Anastasia Hatfield
The body over time gets tired,
with a little sleep and a little rest,
It recharges ready to face whatever happens next.
It takes some time but it’s worth the wait,
as the body re-charges ready for another day.
Just be patient you will see, your recharged body at the best, it’s ever been!
Self Careathon Learn
06/04/2018
Selfcareathon, Support
the picture is from The Blurt Foundation Instagram page all credit for the picture goes to them. @theblurtfoundation |
29/03/2018
Harry Potter Tag
Hi Thinking out loud here :D
Also Happy Easter I hope everyone has a lovely weekend.